This post is from 2016.
Because it’s time.
I’ve engaged in conversations with many people over the last few weeks who are alarmingly afraid of sending emails or establishing initial contact with those who could help them, their business and their careers.
I know someone who desperately wanted to work on a television show. Just so I don’t expose my friend, we’ll call this someone, Marie. I told Marie the best way I knew for her to get in touch with the producers was to email them. I gave her the email addresses and she would not press send.
Her rebuttal, “What if they don’t respond?”
My response, “What if they do?”
Her reply, “What if they do respond and I don’t get the job? I’ll be heartbroken.”
My response, “Girl. How many times have you been told no just by your mother? You’ll be fine.”
And that’s the story of most people. Marie never told me she was scared to send the email but I made the logical conclusion by her replies.
I know you’ve heard this a million times, “We miss 100% of the shots we don’t take.” But you have a 50% chance of making it so why not try?
Years ago, when I found myself in paralyzing moments of fear, I asked myself, “What’s the worst that can happen?” and I would produce a list of all the answers that popped up in my head.
You could not get the job.
They could ignore you.
You could stay in Georgia and work for one of these networks.
You could be single forever.
I started to walk myself through this process every time I felt afraid, discovering that this list of “worst things that could happen” wasn't really that bad so I might as well go for it. PLUS, these "things" don’t usually come to fruition anyway.
So I started to send the emails. And I started to make the calls.
So did Marie after she made her list.
When you have those moments, those disabling, nerve-wrecking moments of self-doubt, make your “worst things that could happen” list.
Take a look at it after you’ve exhausted all possible conclusions.
I’m 99.9% sure that you’ll find those things, aren’t so bad. Whether someone responds to your email or answers your call, you’ll still come out strong. You’ll come out with your dignity. You’ll come out brave.
You’ll also come out a little less afraid.
So send that email.
Make that call.
And let me know how it turns out.